I can only speak of my way which was shown to me during prayer but by no means is the only way for others to follow. When in trouble or faced with a dilemma I often have the answer as if projected in front of me like a film which I or with the help a very good friend, have to interpret later.
One day someone had deeply hurt me. I closed my eyes as the pain was unbearable. I saw like a hand from within going towards my heart and it scooped the pain leaving a calm feeling inside.
That feeling stayed with me for quite a long time and I often think of this when I have pain. The mere thought of this memory always leaves me feeling a little stronger each time.
p.s. To Kitty and Sarah, thanks for your comments on previous posts.
Continuation of Someone watches over me